How to Set Goals – The Dreambreaker Method Goal setting done right

I have always been a dreamer. Still am. I just know how to hide it better now, but I still dream seemingly impossible, idealistic, utopian dreams. And it makes sense to generally stay quite about my dreams till they are broken down.

I sometimes pretend to be the dream breaker. Someone who rushes in, grabs each and every dream that I have been nurturing, and then break. it. down.

Break it down into a plan.

Dreams deserve plans. I call it dream breaking. Here’s how it is done.

How to Break Dreams into Goals

Goal setting - Dreambreaker method

You can’t hit a target if you do not know what it is. We need to define our targets.

I have had some very embarrassing failures (the failed scholar of self, remember?) in achieving my goals and those failures have helped me learn.

The following points can prove to be helpful in setting goals/targets.

1. Setting goals is not a one-time 30 minute activity.

It is an exercise in thinking actually. And thinking, believe it or not, is hard. I have this little test, “if you find thinking to be easy, you are either doing it wrong or not doing enough of it.”

Making goals require you to think back and then think forward, with you and your precious little dreams in the middle. It is a one heck of a ride, I assure you (I am in the process of setting goals as I write this, so I can vouch for the sheer difficulty of honestly assessing my past to adjust my present).

2. The goals that you write down are to be regularly reviewed.

There must be a system for review. To control something you need to track it. I think one should review their primary goals at least once every quarter (3 months). You can even review daily, depending on your goals.

Also, to review you need to record. You can use any medium to record. I wasted a lot of time trying to adapt different technologies. Now I use paper and pen, I doodle, draw, make venn diagrams and just brainstorm the heck out of my dreams.

3. Pay attention to the language you use.

We tend to be careless with the kind of language we use with ourselves. Refer back to the fact that the most powerful story ever told is the one you tell yourself, about yourself.

Bottom line: the language you use to write down your goals is important.

Tony Robbins goes to great lengths in explaining why you should use the following method to formulate your desired outcomes:

  • Use positive language instead of negation. Write “eat healthy foods” instead of “Don’t eat junk food”.
  • Be as specific as possible. Pretty self-explanatory. Your goal is to, for example, earn more money? Specify how much. From which business. Perhaps break the targeted income to per month? Per week maybe? Per day? And of course, the deadline of achieving the goal? You get the picture.
  • Have a clear idea of what success will look like. Tony Robbins calls this “evidence procedure”. What will you see when you achieve your goal? How will you feel? What will you hear? Any tastes you can associate with your goal’s success? As many senses that you can involve, the better.
  • The goals should not be dependent on others. Will your goal only work if someone somewhere has to to do a certain thing? Are you in control of your goals? You should be able to answer it in “Yes I am”.
  • The outcome of your goals should be contributing to someone or something other than you. Adjust your goals so they have a “contribution” factor. Some goals may seem harder to adjust. For example, you want to lose weight. That’s for yourself only, you think. No. When you will lose weight, your loved ones will notice and they will be happy for you. Involve your surroundings and your communities in your goals in a positive way.


WHAT THE HELL this is Not Easy!

If you’ve read this far, you at least have that patience thing going for you; congratulations.

But in all honesty, this is difficult work.

They say that there are only two types of pains in this world, the pain of regret and the pain of discipline. Always, always choose the pain of discipline. This is my pain of discipline.

Just remember, once you reach a place where it feels boring and difficult, that is the place you need to cross.

Question: Do you set goals? Any tips you’d like to add to this? Let me know in the comments section. Thanks.

I am already SUPER FREAKIN EXCITED about what I am putting down on paper, setting goals and reviewing the last year. I wish the same excitement for you in trying to live the life of your dreams.

The next post (expected coming Thursday), I will share some of those goals, complete with templates that you can use to start your own Dream Breaking. God willing.

Now I am off to enjoying the Lahori winters. God bless and best of luck in your conquests and adventures.

Note: Register for the The SECOND Annual LifeETC Meetup here.

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It is time to meet

We are organising the second annual LifeETC meetup. This is a short reminder to register early.

The event is expected to take place in Feb, 2013. In Lahore. More details and signup is available at

LifeETC Momekh Meetup


Last year the seats went out fast, and I had to move the event to a larger hall. People from 5 different cities showed up and it was an awesome mix.

Yes, the seats are limited. IF you are really serious about attending & meeting up with other like-minded independent entrepreneurs and adventurers, here’s what you need to do:

  1. Sign up and book your seat for the event by clicking the link here. All important updates regarding this event will be sent out to the people who sign up at this link. So if you are interested and will be in Lahore around mid Fed, sign up now please.
  2. Keep you calendar open for mid Feb 2013.
  3. Stay awesome

(Note: step 3 is optional but highly recommended)

Everyone is invited. You can bring friends along (but everyone needs to register separately and this time around, there is a small ticket price – see the Sign up page for more details.)

If you are coming from outside the country (which automatically makes you more awesome of course), you can contact me – I may be able to help you make arrangements etc. But you do need to register first.

There are other details that will be of interest to you if you want to come. Updates regarding the Meetup will be more directed towards those who sign up. Click to read more and/or sign up.

Thank you for being part of the LifeETC Community.

And now, I go back to training and writing and recording and organising and stuff.

Do you want to volunteer? If you want to volunteer in helping me organise this event, please do contact me. The selected volunteers will meet once a week (possibly face-to-face but an online hangout also possible) to plan this better, their input will be more valued and they will be paid in cupcakes (if I get them baked in time, otherwise, they’d be working for free :) ).

Destination Anywhere: Getting to 1408

I have seen enough people dreaming of travel – men and women – that I think that we should make a plan to finally do it.

2013 is just around the corner – let’s make this the year where you get to travel to anywhere in the world.

Sounds like a dream? Let’s break it then.

Break Your Dreams

Travel is a big adventure for many people yet we don’t get to travel as often. Although we have learned, by default, how to dream, we have not been taught how to break our dreams into plans. Let’s fix that. Let’s plan our travel dream, and make it happen. What do you say? Continue reading Destination Anywhere: Getting to 1408

3 True Stories of Profitable Adventures

Community Building as Marketing

Waqas Ali is originally from Basirpur, a small town in the middle of Punjab, Pakistan. He came to Lahore, the heart of Pakistan, to do what most of us do: further his studies. Halfway through, he dropped out.

“The stuff they were teaching me at college was so outdated,” he says, “I was reading books from the library that showed me the now!” He realised that college syllabus was not enough. Continue reading 3 True Stories of Profitable Adventures

The Possibility of Adventure The Birth, the Edge and the Story

There is this bridge connecting the two countries of Zimbabwe and Zambia. Right next to the awe-inspiring Victoria Falls, the bridge goes over this deep ravine and is a sight to behold.

Bungee Jumping off Victoria Falls Bridge

I jumped off that bridge in 1998 with nothing but a bungee chord tied to my feet.

It was on the day of my 18th birthday. The bungee crew ask you questions, gauging how mentally fit you are before hurling yourself off a bridge, and during the conversation I told them it was my birthday that day. When you’re scared you say silly things. I remember looking into the camera and yelling out, “18 till I die!”.

Now all Bryan Adams‘ fans will appreciate the choice of this phrase. But the irony is that I was bungee jumping on my 18th birthday, and screaming 18 till I die on the day you turn 18 isn’t exactly an apt use of that phrase.

“You are here to die then?” the cameraman casually asks. And then everyone joins in, “he’s here to die, here’s here to die to die to die…” they made it into some sort of African chant I remember. I put on a brave face through all of this (I have video proof of the brave face!), and finally made it to the edge.

The Bungee Master, this Australian guy, comes up to my ear and says, “if the string breaks mate, swim to your right ‘coz there’re crocodiles on the left, OK?”

He then placed his hand lightly on my back, and started the count down.

Five. Four. Three. Two. One. Continue reading The Possibility of Adventure The Birth, the Edge and the Story