What Matters Most Not What We Think

Who you are and where you’re from does not matter.

What matters is what you decide from this moment on.

Isn’t that horrifyingly simple?

We are lead to believe that we are our biographies, that our past will determine our future.

Things like,

but you can’t do this because you’re from a third world country,”

or something in the lines of,

you are not made for this,” …

these dialogues are thrown at us.

But why do we accept them?

We do what everyone is doing, because we are scared.

I remember being told that I am not cut out for business. I wanted to believe them, I kid you not.

I wanted to believe them because I knew that this was the easy way out: I am not doing what I want to do because “they” said that I can’t. And I believe them. So I can’t do this. That’s why I’m not doing this.

That would have been a good enough excuse. A good enough excuse to NOT live a meaningful, fulfilling, happier life.

Just like so many of us, I was also told that it is not possible to earn honest money. I was told that to go on adventures every three months is for teenagers with nothing to do. I was told that I won’t be able to finish this because “no one in my family has ever succeeded”. I wanted to believe them because I was scared.

I remember making this one simple decision, years and years ago. I wrote down: whatever happens from this day forth, it will be because I chose it, not because others chose it for me.

That one decision changed everything. I either had to “own up” to their decision, or I had to decide what I though was best.

By God’s Ultimate, Neverending Grace, that was one of the best decisions of my life.

Listen, I don’t want to sell you dreams. I don’t want to make “living life to the fullest” as this easy thing that you have to do. It’s not.

Once you take responsibility for your actions, once you stop blaming:

  • the economy,
  • bad genes,
  • bad partners,
  • bad company,
  • bad friends,
  • bad neighbors
  • the wrong family
  • the wrong family living next door and are now friends, always hang around, and you are married to one of them…
  • etc etc etc

… once you stop pointing fingers at others, and start making your own choices, life suddenly becomes clearer.

But it also gets harder. Looking inwards, owning up to your decisions — these things are for men and women, not boys and girls.

It’s like enjoying the rain: some people run off when it rains, hiding under the shade. Some enjoy the spectacle of nature by standing still under the downpour, smiles on their faces.

But make no mistake: they will get drenched.

The drenched will look at the dry, and swear that the benefits far, far outweigh the downside. The dry will look at their neat clothes and thank God they didn’t decide to stand out in the open.

It is my decision to be drenched. What’s yours?

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.

May West

5 Steps to make it EASY to talk about money

Thinking about money got me thinking about toasters. You see, I’ve got a question for you: is money the root of all evil?

Aren’t people – people making choices, albeit poor one – are the root of evil? Yes, they use money to “express” their evil… just like guns don’t kill people, people kill people.

And this gets me thinking: if guns dont kill people, people kill people, does this mean that toasters dont toast toast, toast toast toast.

talk about money is difficult

And this I think is absolutely funny. But money on the other hand, is not a funny topic, as you’ll see.

Continue reading 5 Steps to make it EASY to talk about money

Are You a Bad Entrepreneur?

I got an email from a reader who wanted to start a project that he was really passionate about. But he did not have the money to start.

He asked me if he can get a loan. In fact he asked me if I knew from where he can get a loan; he was clear that a business loan will help him start his business.

Loans make you a Bad Entrepreneur
Is Taking a Loan the Right Way to Start a Business?

If you’re trying to do a business that requires more money than you have, you can: Continue reading Are You a Bad Entrepreneur?

The African Adventure / The Leverage Experiment

I can complain right now about how things are not going well. For my country Pakistan. The load shedding (power cuts) alone is enough to send chills down one’s spine – metaphorical chills as otherwise it’s hot and humid. The economy is down the drains. It’s awful. An honest man can’t make a living in this place.

a glimmer of light amid a powercut!

Or I can look at the challenges and consider it an opportunity to grow. A lot of people have done and are doing great things. And if I can figure out a way to make it fun – for me and for those around me – it can be a big adventure!

I like that. Adventure I liiike.

It starts with the habit of leveraging the problems. Sounds boring I know. But wait till it gets really, reaaly interesting… Continue reading The African Adventure / The Leverage Experiment

Sitting Still

For a lot of people, meditation is when you do nothing. I think they miss the point. Meditation is stillness. It is allowing the torrid rain of thought to fall unhindered. To test and to find purpose.

Ideas are generated, nurtured and destroyed. All authority is challenged, questioned. A deeper meaning is explored. The resolve is tested and retested. It is the ultimate equipment test. The training of the mind.

You can imagine the little flick of the finger, testing the “ting” of your thoughts.

To some, this may feel like doing nothing. But there is a difference between doing nothing and being still.


Reflection is sacred.

From the Prophet Mohammad peace be upon him spending days alone in the cave of Hira – and this was before he was bestowed Prophethood – to seemingly eternal respect humanity pays to the one who takes the time out to reflect, there is ample reason to seriously consider “alone-time”.

The rain that never stops is the world we live in. Step in the shade to see how drenched you really have become. Being alone, doing nothing else, forces you to start thinking. And like a small spark that grows into the roaring fires, that is all that is needed.


I have been unplugged for almost a month. I did not tell anyone. I have not called anyone, have only received calls. I have not posted a single post – only this one. I plan on doing this every Ramadan. One month every year where I just unplug. Use this one month to “train” for the next eleven.

By God’s Grace, there has been no emergency, no situation that demanded my presence. Not even my input. It is both refreshing and humbling. I am insignificant. The insignificance is liberating. Makes sense.

I like to think that I am ready for the next year. For the first time in my life, I am focusing on just showing up. I am reminding myself to not over-think it this time, to not over-analyse, to realize the difference between planning and doing.

Planning is playful creativity, doing is unquestioning routine. The middle ground is where the magic happens. I intend to be the magician.

I will be seeing you often, on this blog or elsewhere, God willing. I hope you too find liberation. I hope you too find stillness. The calm is magical, for it promises a storm.  Abraa-ca-dabraa.